It's not the Lavalife For Me.

It’s the eve of 9-11 and I sit here chugging back ibuprofen, editing letters, and searching lavalife profiles. The day so far has been all right. It started with a very long 29K run which took us from Kinsmen park through Rundle for a lap, and back to Kinsmen. Ugh. What a long run. We took almost five hours because of injuries. The longest I have run previous to this was a half marathon, 21K, back in August. So it was a stretch. I didn’t make it to work today as I couldn’t walk by the time I had gotten home. I basically slept from 2 until 7 and then went straight to the computer to work on some things.

I have had a very productive evening so I don’t feel really guilty looking on lavalife. Now, I have been on lavalife for over a year, or year and a half, I guess is better. And so far, I have met three guys, and talked to five on the phone, two I have never met. And nothing. One guy was great, and we went out twice, but he worked out of town and we didn’t chat much after the second date. I am on a two date maximum, for some reason, and I have been for a few years. Not including the nine month relationship that ended about a year and a half ago.

Lavalife is interesting. I’m not sure how many of you have been on it, but basically, you fill out a profile, with or without a picture, and you are left on display for everyone to see. So I sit here searching through profiles for the 400th time, I’m sure. I know the faces so well. No one is new and no one sparks my attention anymore. There are tons of guys who have pictures with their dogs. Why? I had a friend once who used to lure girls over to his house to meet his dog. It worked. At least for the first meeting. Annoying dog though. Some guys have vacation pictures and a lot have strange posed webcam pictures.

My picture is one from 1999. I know, totally unfair, but it’s still me and it still looks like me. I have a few new pictures but they don’t go over very well. I’m not sure why. That’s me. I don’t have a third eye or anything. Perhaps if I did, I would get more smiles.

I generally do a search of 25 – 31 year olds. I don’t think I could date a 25 year old, but you never know. Besides, they are pretty hot. The 31 year olds scare the crap out of me seeing as they are over 30, which I will be in a few years but right now, it seems old. I have smiled at all the guys that I think are my type, or at least the ones I find attractive. A few have smiled back, but for the most part, I have had no luck.

It’s a great way to meet people but it’s also very frustrating. I find that so many guys are looking for that perfect girl. They read the profile, see the picture, and assume that is who she is. Very few are willing to take the chance and see what there is beyond the website. I’m just not sure how to meet anyone. The last guy I met outside of lavalife was a guy at my friend’s stagette. He was actually the brother of my friend’s friend. Hmm. Does that make sense? My friend was friends with a girl, and this number guy is her brother. Yeah. Had a good night dancing, he asked for my number, but he never called. So that ended that. I’m just not very good at this.

I have found a few of my friends online, and some friends of friends. I have even seen some of the guys at bars. It’s such a strange world. I’m just not sure where to meet people. I work with all women right now and I am not in school. That makes it tough. I can’t afford to go out and where am I really going to meet someone? A bar? I don’t think that’s where I want to meet someone. Through friends is probably the best way, but my friends don’t have any friends I haven’t met, and the last time that happened, I lost a few friends in the process. Ugh. I guess I don’t have time anyway. But when all your friends have boyfriends, it’s pretty tough. We’ll see what next year brings, I suppose. Maybe 28 will be better to me then 27.